Painful Intercourse

Take your relationship with sex from pain-staking to babymaking (literally!)

Take your relationship with sex from pain-staking to babymaking (literally!) with a compassionate, connected approach that allows you to understand and enjoy your body, discover intimacy in your relationship, and experience sex the way it was meant to be- pleasurable, enjoyable, and deeply connecting - so you can get to baby-making when the time is right for you!

Is this you?

  • You’re married to your college sweetheart and have such a sweet and caring marriage

  • You are ready to try for kids, but there’s just one problem… you have pain with sex and maybe you’ve never even been able to have penetrative intercourse … there’s hope for you! Keep reading…

  • Every time you try to connect sexually, your body clenches up

  • You deeply desire to become a mother, but every time you think about how you’re going to get there you get a pit in your stomach because you’re barely able to insert a tampon, much less have intercourse

  • Even though you know your husband is supportive and gentle with you, you feel guilty that you aren’t able to give your husband that part of you, and you’re spiralling into a deeper anxiety that you may slowly grow more and more disconnected

  • You desire a rich and joyful sex life, but right now you’d be thrilled if it was even tolerable

If that’s you, I want you to know that you are in the right place, and it’s NOT too late to have a juicy, joyful and intimate connection with your partner - and if you want to start a family soon, I want you to know that’s 100% possible for you.

You would love it if you could:

❃ Experience sex the way you were taught it was supposed to feel

❃ Be fully free of the long-standing guilt, anxiety, and shame you have felt around your body

❃ Start trying to conceive in the next few months, but that feels impossible

Maybe you’ve tried things like:

❃ Simply waiting for it to get better on its own (it hasn’t)

❃ Trying to “just relax” and have a glass of wine per your OBGYN’s expert advice (Somehow you don’t think Cabernet is going to solve this)

❃ Working on your anxiety in therapy, but while it’s helped on some level, your body hasn’t responded and there’s been little meaningful change in your sex life.

And now you are starting to feel like disconnection with your spouse is inevitable and you may never get to have the family you have dreamed of.

If that’s you, I want you to know that I’ve helped tons of women like you overcome painful sex and go on to have a deep and lasting connection with their partners that transcends physical intimacy, and YES - BABIES!

Hi! I’m Dr. Jackie Roelofs

I am on a mission to help even MORE women like you have pain-free sex and live your life with deep connection to your body, your partner, and your bigger purpose.

If you experience painful intercourse, you may have been told by your doctor, mom, or friends to have a glass of wine and relax, that it’s “just” your anxiety, or to wait it out and things will get better.

While it’s true that your mind and body are intricately connected, and it does take time to heal, you’ve probably figured out by now that it’s not that simple, and you are tired of “wait and see,” but you don’t know what else to try.

You and I both know that it’s not just about your pain - it’s about how you feel disconnected from your spouse, frustrated with your body for not doing what it’s “supposed” to, and maybe even grieved that you may not get to have the family you always dreamed of.

The truth is

pain-free, tolerable sex is not only possible for you, it’s only the minimum –

I help women like you go from experiencing painful intercourse that causes disconnection and disillusionment TO having joyful, pleasurable, and deeply connecting sex that strengthens your relationship with your partner and allows you to start a family if and when you want to.

  • Having vaginismus and pain with sex was impacting my marriage and delaying our plans to start a family. Dr. Jackie was warm and caring and she was able to relate on a personal level, she truly cared about my whole being. After working with Jackie, I was able to have penetrative sex, and even decreased back pain, better knowledge of my pelvic floor muscles and how to control them and able to get pregnant as a result, I even had a vaginal delivery!

    A.C.

  • I had so many OBGYNs and doctors tell me it was “just anxiety” or to just “drink a glass of wine.” Jackie listened and addressed the root issue! I am now able to have sex with no or minimal pain! And we now have a beautiful baby boy!

    Caroline P.

  • After working with Jackie for one session, she was able to help me recognize that my body was remembering the sexual abuse I suffered as a child and my body was trying to "protect me." All of the pain I was having started after I got married--intercourse was extremely difficult for me on an emotional, mental, and physical level. The muscles in my pelvic floor, glutes, lower back--basically my whole lower torso--were so tight because my body was sending alarms that intercourse was "bad" and that I "needed to be protected.

    H.R.

Pleasurable sex is possible for you too!

Jackie Listened and addressed the root issue!

Jackie Listened and addressed the root issue!

After working with Jackie I was able to have penetrative sex.

After working with Jackie I was able to have penetrative sex.

I haven't had pain in months--which is so freeing and also incredible for my marriage.

I haven't had pain in months--which is so freeing and also incredible for my marriage.

I can help you go FROM:

✘ Anxious about date night with your partner because you’re feeling pressure to engage in sex, EVEN THOUGH your sweet guy hasn’t placed any pressure on you

✘ Tensing up the second you sense your cozy kissing session on the couch will lead to your hubby “expecting” more from you, so you avoid any kind of physical intimacy altogether 

✘ Frustrated as you engage in foreplay that does nothing for you because you are fearful of the pain that you know is coming as you waiting for it to just be “over with” 

✘ Throwing the vaginal dilators your OBGYN suggested across the room as you realize you haven’t been able to move up past the smallest size after 3 months of using them

✘ Thinking about ordering home insemination kits because you are SOOO ready for a baby but you’ve given up on conceiving naturally - even though you have no reason to suspect infertility issues 

✘ Aching in your heart as you as you watch your friends share their pregnancy announcements on social media, feeling like at this rate, you may never get to share your own. 

TO instead:

  • Playfully initiating a make-out sesh at the end of a date night without hesitation or overthinking what it will turn into 

  • Relaxing into your husband’s touch as you melt into a small spoon, falling asleep together on the couch watching Gilmore Girls

  • Actually enjoying leisurely, relaxed foreplay as you feel your cuddly connection with your husband explode into intense, pressure-free physical desire 

  • Throwing the dilators away entirely because you realize you no longer need them

  • Getting to baby-making, literally, with confidence and joy as you and your husband giggle between the sheets (and on the kitchen counter of your Air BnB, and in the shower)

  • Styling an iPhone photo shoot with your ultrasound strip, excited to share the news of your bundle of joy with your friends and family

Looking for support?

I’d love to connect!

You deserve a juicy life

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You deserve a juicy life --

Things I Can Help You With

I am on a mission to help even MORE women like you have pain-free sex and live your life with deep connection to your body, your partner, and your bigger purpose.

Here’s How I can Help!

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